Hi, I'm Nikki.
Licensed therapist, relationship coach, and someone who learned the hard way that being the strong one is not the same as feeling like yourself. This is who I am, and why I do this work.
CA Licensed LMFT · EMDR Certified · Gottman Trained · 15+ years · @nicoyanikki
I know what it's like to be the one who holds everything together.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with more than fifteen years of experience, I've worked with hundreds of people who were doing everything right, showing up for everyone, and still felt invisible in their own lives.
For a long time, I was one of them. I was the strong one, the capable one, the person everyone leaned on. I learned that you can be everybody's rock and still feel far from yourself. Finding my way back is the work I now walk other people through.
As a therapist, I hold space for deep healing. As a coach, I walk alongside you while you build the life and relationships you actually want. In both, the work is the same: making the unconscious conscious, so you can change from the inside out.
I'm not here to hand you affirmations and send you on your way.
I'll be warm with you, and I'll be honest with you. We go to the root, without the shame, so the change actually lasts.
Heal the relationship with yourself, and everything else follows.
The beliefs I don't budge on.
Everything I create, teach, and coach comes back to these.
Self-love
The most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself. We start there, no apologies.
Freedom
You get to stop performing, over-functioning, and shrinking. There's another way to live, and you're allowed to want it.
Forgiveness
Meeting your past, and your parts, with compassion instead of blame, so you can finally set it down.
Acceptance
Every part of you is welcome here. Nothing about you needs to be fixed to be worthy of love.
Peace & joy
Regulation, rest, and delight are not rewards you earn. They're your birthright, full stop.
Living fully
Healing is not the destination. It's the doorway into a life you actually want to be in.
Two doors into the same work.
People always ask how my therapy background and my coaching fit together. Here's the straight answer.
Therapy, at the clinic
Through Journey to New Beginnings, my team and I provide licensed therapy for anxiety, trauma, grief, and relationships. This is clinical care for California residents, covered by the protections of the therapeutic relationship.
Coaching, worldwide
Choose Yourself is coaching, not therapy. It's forward-focused, high-touch, and available wherever you are. We use everything I know about the mind and relationships to help you build what's next. Coaching does not diagnose or treat mental health conditions.
The Inner Mirror
Not ready to book? Start with the Inner Mirror, a free, grounding reflection to help you see your patterns clearly and come back to yourself, on your own time.
See my reflectionIf any of this feels like you, let's talk.
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